这三件事很残酷，对你却有很大的帮助_美文

这三件事很残酷，对你却有很大的帮助

“it is neither good nor bad, but thinking makes it so.”

william shakespeare

some things are often deemed to be bad. some things are often deemed to be good.

here are three things that may sound bad but can actually be good for you. three things that i have learned to make better use of or strengthen a bit since that would help me out. think about them. then add and subtract as you see useful for your life and situation right now while using your own common sense.

“事情本无好坏之分，关键在于你怎么想”——莎士比亚

有些事总是被认为是好的，而有些事总是被认为是坏的。有三件事听起来很坏，却能真正帮助你。好好地利用这三件事给我带来了很多帮助。仔细想想，看看它们对你现在的处境是否有帮助。

1. selfishness.

selfishness is rarely seen as something positive. the word may fill your head with images of greedy and soulless montgomery burns-like people.

however, personal development is in a way pretty selfish. you are trying to make yourself and your life better. but the thing is that by focusing on helping yourself first you can become stronger and help others in a better way too.

if you just focus on other people and not on yourself then you risk burning out. or people may take advantage of you as you set no limits or boundaries. you become the “nice guy/girl” who is always out there to help people but think little about yourself which in the long run can become pretty unhealthy.