. Another writer, Gaadad Girl from Mongolia, agrees. She wrote,

You are young, obviously educated and I’m guessing you live in the capital, Ulan Bator. Don’t worry, more and more city women are waiting later to get married and have kids.

But Lan in Vietnam has a different suggestion:

Tell him what you’re thinking about and give each other time to think carefully.

Several people also wrote to advise a man from Brazil who wants to improve his relationship with his big brother. He says every time they see each other they argue. He says he thinks part of the problem is that he has been very successful in a career. His brother is unemployed. But the writer says he has struggled to give his brother advice about work.

Alex from Russia suggested the little brother may need to change his behavior. He wrote,

I suppose you shouldn't give him any advice how to change his life. He considers you as a little brother and, as you noticed, he is not willing to hear you

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Veronica Ayala from Brazil made a similar comment.

Maybe you shouldn't give him advice just because he didn't ask.

She suggests spending time together doing things they both enjoy -- like watching sports, or playing a game with the older brother’s children.

But she says there one thing the advice seeker must do for his older brother. She writes:

Show and tell him that you love him. We need to know that we are beloved! Perhaps he wants to hear it.