Reality check: If you want to help out because it gives you pleasure, fine, but no one is irreplaceable. If its not brain surgery, others can do itmaybe not with your pizzazz, but it will get done and the cosmos will not explode in the process, says Susan Newman, PhD, author of The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say Itand Mean It and Stop People- Pleasing Forever。
审视现实:如果你因为可以从中得到快乐而答应帮忙,这当然无可厚非。但你必须知道,没有人无可替代。又不是动脑手术,其他人也能做--或许别人没你那么活力四射,但事情还是能完成,并且这个过程中,宇宙也不会爆炸著有《250种方法说不》的苏珊纽曼博士如是说,别老是想着讨好别人。
Your response: Turn the tablesflattery goes both ways. Instead of giving in, put the ball in the flatterers court. Say something like, Youre such a fabulous bakerI could give you the recipe! Why dont you try your hand at it; Im sure the kids would love it。
你的应对:扭转局势--反拍马屁。你无需放弃,你可以将选择权发配给对方,比如你可以说:你最面包真的很棒,我给你食谱吧!你或许可以自己试试做面包哦。我想孩子们会喜欢的。
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Your mother insists that you never callnever meaning your three calls a week arent enough. Or your friend sighs that you seem to have time for everyone but herand does it while the two of you are together having lunch。
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