妻子这九句话会让丈夫烦不胜烦_美文

妻子这九句话会让丈夫烦不胜烦

Do you really want to know your husband’s thoughts about an attractive woman? Probably not ― plus, you’re putting your spouse in an uncomfortable, no-win situation, said Kurt Smith, a therapist who specializes in counseling men.

你是真的想知道丈夫如何看待那些窈窕淑女的吗?恐怕不是这样的。男性咨询方面的治疗师库尔特•史密斯认为，这么问只会将你的另一半置于无所适从的双输境地。

“Most men have already identified the pretty women in the room; if he’s trying to respect you then he should be already trying not to look, so you pointing her out will only make him more self-conscious, uncomfortable and unsure of what to do to not upset you or hurt your feelings,” he said.

史密斯说：“谁是这屋子里的漂亮女人，丈夫们大多心中有数;但为了表示对妻子的尊重，他们会尽量不去看这些漂亮女人。如果妻子非要指着某一位询问丈夫的看法，只会让他变得更加局促不安、心神不定，不知道如何做才能不让你失望，不伤害你的感情。”

4. “We need to talk.”

4.“我想我们该好好谈谈了。”

No four words strike fear into a married man’s heart quite like “we need to talk.” Opt for something less ominous sounding the next time you bring up an issue, said Marcia Naomi Berger, a therapist and author of Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love: 30 Minutes a Week to the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted.