失恋这件小事给我们的一些小教训(下)_美文

失恋这件小事给我们的一些小教训(下)

4. Complete yourself

完善你自己

I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

我赞成其他人能够帮助你提高自我、并且让你的生活更加美好和丰富多彩，但是你应该意识到，人们永远不会去成全你或者满足你的期望。没有必要事事都要得到另一半的批准。首先，在能够和爱人分享你的爱之前，你要学会爱自己。试着提升自己，慢慢地你会变得更加自信、更加完整。这就需要你改变你的行动、想法、情感和言谈举止。

5. Don’t even try to change your partner

不要试图改变你的另一半

You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.