悲伤解释：为啥你没有男朋友_大学英语阅读

悲伤解释：为啥你没有男朋友

“Why don’t you have a boyfriend?!”?tends to go hand in hand with that oft-repeated, equally frustrating refrain about men,16 that?“all the good ones are taken.”?The notion that some people willingly remain uncoupled or are waiting for something better to come along is a concept our society appears to struggle with. But at least men are given the dignity of the ‘bachelor’ image. They’re playboys, too cool to commit, too many wild oats to sow17, no biological clock ticking loudly at them every minute of every day. Single women, on the other hand, are painted as spinsters, sad and desperate and still burdened with those same ‘maiden’ names (aka, our own names) bestowed upon them at birth.18

The truth is, I’m picky19. Most people seem to misread that as “I’ll only settle for Ryan Gosling20.” What it actually means is, I want to date somebody who I feel a mental and physical attraction to—and physical attraction is not code for “ripped and looks like Alexander Skarsgard” by the way,21 and nor is it something men are expected to compromise22 on when looking for a mate.

The fact that I’m not willing to compromise on this is something some people find very confusing, and, dare I say, even confronting. Friends have told me on more than one occasion that I should date someone merely because he asked me out, with no regard for my feelings on the matter. But why would I embark on23 a relationship with someone who feels wrong to me, when it would serve no purpose except to see me with a partner (and would in fact distract time and energy I could better spend on focusing on being the best person I can be)?