Why is marriage so hard over the long term?

为什么想要长久地维持婚姻如此之难?

One of the main reasons is what science calls it "habituation." Which is a fancy way of saying we get bored.

原因之一就是科学家所谓的“习惯化”。也就是我们常说的“对彼此感到疲倦了”。

Early on, when a couple can finish each other's sentences it's romantic. But over time "predictable" is a huge negative.

从前，如果一个人能够说出伴侣没说完的话，那便是一件浪漫的事。但随着时间的推移，这种“预测”变成了极大的否定。

Chris Rock gets the point across humorously in this video (NSFW):

基思·洛克(Chris Rock)诙谐地在他的节目中解释了这一点。

Robert Greene, author of The Art of Seduction, explains that surprise is key to romantic feelings:

《诱惑的艺术》一书的作者罗伯特·格林(Robert Greene)说，惊喜是制造浪漫的关键。

Seduction involves a degree of surprise, which is generally the first thing that disappears after you've been in a relationship, and why there's no more seducing that goes on. Everything is familiar and you're no longer surprised by the other person. [The Art of Seduction]

诱惑也含有惊喜的味道，通常情况下，这是恋爱后第一个消失的东西，也是不会再有诱惑的感觉的原因。一切都变得如此熟悉，你也再不会从对方那里得到惊喜。

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