And what we don't think about enough is how to help our children build their character — how to help them develop skills like
perseverance, grit, optimism, conscientiousness, and selfcontrol, which together do more to determine success than S. A.T. scores or I. Q.
There is growing evidence that our anxiety about our children's school performance may actually be holding them back from learning some of these valuable skills.
If you're concerned only with a child's G. P. A. , then you will likely choose to minimize the challenges the child faces in school.
With real challenge comes the risk of real failure.
And in a competitive academic environment, the idea of failure can be very scary, to students and parents alike.
But experiencing failure is a critical part of building character. Recent research by a team of psychologists found that adults who had experienced little or no failure growing up were actually less happy and confident than those who had experienced a few significant setbacks in childhood. “Overcoming those obstacles,” the researchers assumed, “could teach effective coping skills, help engage social support networks, create a sense of mastery over past adversity, and foster beliefs in the ability to cope successfully in the future.”
By contrast, when we protect our children from every possible failure — when we call their teachers to get an extension on a paper; when we urge them to choose only those subjects they're good at — we are denying them those same characterbuilding experiences. As the psychologists Madeline Levine and Dan Kindlon have written, that can lead to difficulties in adolescence and young adulthood, when overprotected young people finally confront real problems on their own and don't know how to overcome them.
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