Avoid hanging out with other people who drink, do drugs, or get into trouble. Even if you don’t do anything wrong, your parents will find you guilty by association, worry more, and possibly harass you. This may not seem fair, but most likely that's what they’ll do, so you’re better off preventing it.
Your parents don’t really have control over you. You’re too big and powerful now. We both know that if you’re determined to do something, your parents can’t stop you, nor can they force you to do something if you refuse. However, if you take this attitude with them, you are inviting trouble. Deep down, your parents also realize that they can’t control you, and they get really mad if you throw that message in their face, because they want to feel like they still have some control. Maybe they can’t stop you from doing certain things and can't force you to follow their orders, but they can still make your life unpleasant if they feel they have lost all influence.
“Who cares? What can they do?” you ask. That’s the wrong question. How your parents punish you is not the issue. You may not care about that, anyway. You would be smarter to ask yourself, “What are they NOT going to do for me when I need something from them, if I continue to remind them that they can't control me?” You already know: they will not do you any favors. How do you avoid this unpleasant conflict? Throw them another bone, of course. This one is easy, though. Just let your parents feel like they have some control over you. You don’t have to do anything special. If you maintain some basic communication with them; don’t taunt them with power and defiance; and try to follow some (or all) of the tips I’ve mentioned, your parents will feel in control, and you will be helping yourself a lot.
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