So we’ve looked at body language, but of course what you say is hugely important too, unless you want to just stand there grinning foolishly. Here Schafer recommends that “the golden rule of friendship is if you make people feel good about themselves, they’re going to like you.” In other words, you need to show interest in them, instead of talking about yourself and all your wonderful achievements. And while you’re chatting, remember this: another way of showing interest is to mirror their physical position.

Another way to form a connection? Find common ground. Suzanne de Janasz, a professor of management with Seattle University, says that charming people are particularly adept at seeking out shared interests or experiences to help them build rapport. Simple things like asking where someone’s from really can open up a discussion and allow you to find areas in common. And if all else fails, you can fall back on that most British of topics: the weather. Glorious day, isn’t it?

词汇表 blessed 命好的，幸运的

effortlessly 不费吹灰之力地

strike up a conversation（与人）攀谈

complete stranger 彻头彻尾的陌生人

lead 线索，头绪

superhuman 超乎常人的

to a large extent 在很大程度上

snap judgement 快速、草率的判断

likeability 喜欢程度

trustworthiness 可信度

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