对我挺有效的一条是,在脑子里树立一个明晰的条例,规定我必须至少每隔几分钟说几句话,或者更多。如果没做到,我明白人们就会觉得我沉闷。这看起来很初级,但当我亲口对自己这样说,就能迫使我自己不断地尝试为当前的讨论加点料。在认识到这一点之前,我畏缩不前,倾听每个人的高谈阔论,接纳他们所说的一切,有时连续十分钟(甚至更久)一言不发。或者,我在自己的脑海里迷了路,被我自己的思绪和浮想搅得心神不宁。你不能那样。你要更频繁地开口,而不是在思绪翩翩中自我感觉良好。有意识地明确这一点能帮助你开口。
When you're new to a group of people who all know each other, this rule especially applies. The onus is often on you to get yourself into their conversation. They may all be comfortable with each other, and benignly neglect to actively include you.
当你走近彼此都已相识的一群人时,这条规律尤其适用。因为参与谈话的义务通常在你。他们可能已然相处融洽,互感亲切而忘记了对方的存在,但同时却也忽视了你。
Don't filter yourself too much when trying to think of something to say
构思说话内容时,不要过度地自我审查
Often when I feel like I can't think of anything to say, there are actually lots of potential conversation topics passing through my mind. But instead of going with them, I nix them for one reason or another; "No, I can't say that. It's too boring.", "No, that's too out of the blue.", "Oh, I'm kind of nervous saying that, though I couldn't tell you why." Instead of censoring yourself too much, just spit out some of the ideas passing through your mind.
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