She was absolutely right. I knew better, yet in the moment that I’d heard the news, I fell prey to reactive thinking and over-simplification. Because it’s much easier to look at someone “up there and envy what they’ve got than it is to ask the tougher questions:

她是绝对正确的。我其实知道，然而在听到消息的那一刻，我却成了反动思考和过于简单化的牺牲品。因为看到别人达到目标、嫉妒他们所取得的成功时，更容易做出这样的反应，而不是反问自己一些问题：

What do they have that I wish I had?

他们拥有什么我希望拥有的东西?

What do I admire about them? What are they modelling for me?

我羡慕他们身上的什么?他们给我做出了什么样的榜样?

What have they done to get where they are today?

为了今天的收获他们付出了什么?

How does this relate to my own values?

这点是如何与我自己的价值观相关的?

When we reflect on these questions, we shift immediately out of comparison mode and turn inwards, to face the heart of the matter: our own desires and fears.

当我们反思这些问题的时候，我们就会立即从攀比的模式当中切换回来，面对我们内心的问题：我们的渴望以及恐惧。

Transform comparison into celebration

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