proportions, it can usually be traced back either to marked parental favoritism or to one siblings conviction that the other is superior.
A study of adult sisters, described in the book Sisters by Elizabeth Fishel, points up how important it is for parents to treat their children even-handedly. Those sisters who reported the best relationships were the ones who said there had been no favoritism, no parental comparisons and no pitting of one child against another.
Social scientists who have studied adult sibling relationships say it is common for them to blow hot and cold. Situations that might be expected to bring them together the birth of a child, the illness or death of a parent are well known for reviving old rivalries.
Instead of uniting in their concern for an ill parent, siblings often quarrel bitterly over who provides the most care, financial support or affection, according to Victor Cicirelli, a Purdue University Psychologist. And probate lawyers say the bitterest quarrels erupt when siblings have to divide a parents personal property.
The break between Jill and Patty might have been closed by now if Jills husband hadnt been so quick to take his wifes side. If spouses want to be constructive when siblings quarrel, they need to remain emotionally neutral, Bank advises. Its a line to be supportive, provided they remember the goal is to help their mates be more objective and not inflame feelings further.
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