Youre Tired of Hearing About It 你真的听烦了
Life is too short to listen to people talk about the same problems over and over again. I have a friend who is often in victim mode. If she calls me to rant at the end of a long day, Ill say to her, I love you, but I can listen for only three minutes and then I have to go. Im not cruel. Ill say it in a lighthearted way. That helps soften the blow. Friends have to be honest with each other to have emotionally healthy relationships. Otherwise we would all be screening every call, and thats not how I want to live. 人生苦短,真不该老听别人重复抱怨同样的问题。我有一个经常陷入受害者心态的朋友。如果漫长的一天结束时,她找我抱怨,我就告诉她:我爱你,但我只能听三分钟,然后,我得走了。我不是冷酷。我会用一种轻快的方式说这话。这样就温和多了。朋友间要诚实,这样友谊才能健康。否则,每次来访,我们都揣着面具,我可不想要这样的生活。
Everything 每件事
Be frank about your age, your sexual orientation, your criminal record (if you have one), your tattoos, your scars, and your prescriptions. Admit to your bad moods, your neuroses, your fantasies, and your fears and it will be so cathartic you wont need therapy. Better still, youll be able to gossip without hypocrisy. I am candid about myself in my column, and that frees me to investigate the private lives of public figures. The same applies to everyday gossiping: No one can fault you for talking about others indiscretions if youre the first to reveal those things about yourself. 要坦率:年龄、性取向、犯罪记录(如果有一个)、纹身、疤痕、秘方。承认坏脾气、承认神经官能症、胡思乱想、害怕恐惧,这样真是太痛快了,你就没必要治疗了。更棒的是,你不用戴着假面具来八卦。在自己的专栏里,我很坦率的,这样就给了我自由,让我能审视那些公众人物的私生活了。这对日常八卦也适用:如果一开始,你就把自己给八卦一通,那么,就没人责怪你唧唧歪歪别人的诸多小毛病了。
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