在社交网络高度发达的时代,人们很容易去过度关注周围人的生活,由此产生的攀比无处不在。生活中,人们都习惯将自己最风光的一面展现给大家,可是有谁能看到风光背后的东西呢?很多时候,得到的多意味着承担的也多。可能是我们知道自己的缺憾,所以总喜欢拿那些看上去完美的人和自己做比较,把他们当作人生的榜样和坐标。不要羡慕别人的精彩,也不要嫉妒他人的成功。
First thing in the morning, I check Twitter, only to have it list off for me all the ways I’ve already fallen behind. A colleague has released a new e-book. Two of my design heroes are announcing a collaborative project. One of my old college buddies has posted a video trailer for an upcoming online program, and she looks phenomenal, polished, charismatic (I’m still in bed, bleary-eyed, and definitely not at my most telegenic.)
Am I really falling behind? Is anybody actually keeping score? Did any of these people post any of the updates with the intent of making me feel bad? Of course not. But if I’m not careful, it’s terribly easy to view my social media streams as a constant reminder of all the stuff I’m not doing, dreams I’m not fulfilling , and rooms I’ve failed to decorate.
This isn’t a social media problem. It’s a comparison problem. There isn’t a single thing about Twitter—or any of the other social media platforms I use—that’s designed to make me ask how I’m measuring up. That’s all me—an automatic, internal mechanism. It’s part ego, part creative drive, and part deep soul yearning.
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