Find Closure.学会放手
Resolve to accept what has passed: you can’t change the past, and negative emotions—such as hate—damage the future. Decide to forgive them, and also forgive yourself for holding negative thoughts about another person. Place yourself in their shoes and consider how things could look from their perspective. In their shoes, would you agree that they should have such a strong emotion attributed to them? Also, put yourself in the position of an impartial observer; someone who doesn’t know either of you. How would they interpret your actions? It’s a lot harder to hold such extreme views when you look at something from the perspectives of others. Is it possible to talk to the person? Often differences, however big they seem, can be resolved by talking with the other person. Misunderstandings can be discovered, compassion can be given, and the person’s good qualities can become apparent, if given a chance. You may not become friends, trust or respect the person, but it’s possible to achieve a healthy downgrade from hating them.
接受既成的事实:如果无法改变过去,不能扭转仇恨一类的悲情,亦或者毁灭未来的情绪。就放下它们吧,同时也宽恕自己曾经的怨气。进入对方的世界,从对方的角度去观察一草一木。如此,你还会执意去恨他们么?带着客观的眼光判断;若有一个局外者站在公正的立场上,他会怎样解读你的行为?一旦你将心比心,又怎会产生如此极端的仇恨呢。沟通乃理解之始,再大的分歧与误解,在沟通的笼罩下便会淡然无光,怜悯之心将油然而生,人性光辉也会耀然跃出。若然成真,即成不了至交,至少能对其刮目相看。
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