因为,有很长一段时间我虽然自己也说不清,但不知怎么地我就是认为如果我担心某件事就能避免这件事发生。对,我相信大部分我所担心的事都没发生恰恰是因为我的担心。我把自己的担心当作一种保护伞,一种围绕在我爱的人身边并随他们到各处的无形力量,就像一个光环或守护者,就像天使头上的光环。
I explained this to a friend who looked at me before asking "Nice. How is that working for you?"
我这样跟朋友解释后,朋友看了看我说:“很好,可这对你有什么用呢?”
I was stumped. I was stunned.
我僵住了,蒙了。
I realized I had inadvertently been practicing being a worrier for years, and that, as such, I could un-learn it. I replaced every worry-thought with another thought. ("All is well". "Everything is going to be ok." Or even - "even if that was going to happen my worry is not going to prevent it".)
我意识到我无意中多虑了很多年,我同样意识到可以改掉这个坏习惯。我把每种担心都换成另外一个想法(“一切顺利”、“一切都会好的”,或者甚至是“即使这件事真的发生了,我担心也于事无补”)。
I can't say I don't worry anymore but I worry a lot less. And when I do, I get to work on letting that crap go.
我不能说我再没有担心过,但比过去少多了。要担心时就努力把那些废话从大脑中清理出去。
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