7. Perfectionism and self-doubt

完美主义和自我怀疑

Recently, someone said to me, “Perfectionism is actually Failurism.” Why? Because when you are a perfectionist, you constantly doubt yourself. You look for the failure in your life and attempt to fix it. Then you have to deal with all the failures that crop up from your attempt to fix the last failure. It is a destructive and unnecessary cycle. If you’re always focusing on the negative, your mind begins to identify with that. Why not try focusing mostly on the positive?

最近有人对我说，“完美主义实际上是失败主义。” 为什么？因为当你是完美主义者时，你会不断地怀疑自己。你会寻找生活中的失败然后试图去修复它。然后，你还得去处理上次你试图去修复结果却失败了的事情。这是种破坏性和不必要的循环。如果你总是把注意力集中在负面的事情上，你的大脑就会开始识别这些事情。为什么不试着去关注正面的事情呢？

8. Dwelling on the past and worrying about the future

回想过去，并担心未来

Ah, yes. This is the most insidious of habits. Fear loves this habit, because it keeps you in a perpetual state of terror. You are afraid to repeat past mistakes or let go of past hurts. You spend your time fantasizing about how you will fail. Guess what? It’s not real. The past is gone forever. You will never actually be in the future. All we have is this moment. How will you choose to spend it?

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