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如何让自己的性格变得越来越好

Good news/bad news: Even small changes in a person's personality can produce important effects on relationships, career, health and happiness, Dr. Soto says. But because personality characteristics are, by definition, relatively stable, change takes time.

索托博士说，人的性格哪怕只出现稍许变化，也会对感情、职业、健康和幸福产生重大影响。这个消息可谓是喜忧参半。但由于性格特征从本质上来说是比较稳定的，改变起来会需要很长时间。

'You start by changing the behavior and then, if you can maintain that new behavior over time, it gets encoded,' Dr. Soto says. Work with a therapist and you could see lasting changes in a matter of months, he says. You can learn to manage your personality traits on your own, too. It just takes longer.

索托说：“你应该从改变行为做起，接下来，如果你能长期保持这种新行为，这种行为就会被锁定下来。”他说，如果能获得心理治疗师的指导，你可以在几个月之内看到持续的变化。你也可以学着自己管理你的性格特征，只是要花费比较长的时间。

Where do you start? 'First, we have to recognize which pieces of our personality affect us,' says Richard Levak, a Del Mar, Calif., psychologist. 'If I am a grouchy, argumentative, slightly suspicious type, and I am always getting fired because I get into arguments with co-workers and always blame others, then I have to realize that I have to change something.'