这让我想到了三个问题:首先,贿赂是否为一种诚实的行为?多年前,我经常听心理学家乔伊o布朗博士的广播节目。她非常赞成通过贿赂获得想要的结果。但延伸到孩子和金钱时这种观点还成立吗?第二,贿赂(有巨大的负面意义)和激励(不存在负面意义)之间有什么区别?第三,如果你认为贿赂没问题,应该如何实施才能得到你想要的结果?答案依次如下。
Is bribery okay? Yes and no. If what you're looking for is a short-term fix -- getting your kid to try a new food, for example, or to capitulate and see the movie that the rest of the family wants to see -- a bribe can actually be fairly effective, says Dean Karlan, economics professor at Yale University and the founder of Stickk.com. You draw the line. The child toes it. You pay up. (As an example: A friend of mine was having trouble getting her child to sit down to write her essay for the common app. She offered a bribe -- even let the child name the amount. Fifty dollars and two-and-a-half hours later, the child emerged with a "beautiful essay." The reason this is such a good example is because it was a task that would never have to be completed again.)
贿赂可行吗?既可行也不可行。耶鲁大学(Yale University)经济学教授、Stickk.com的创始人迪恩o卡兰认为,如果家长的目的是解决短期问题,比如让孩子尝试一种新食物,或让孩子屈服,观看家里其他人希望看的电影等,贿赂会非常有效。你划下道来,孩子成功触线,你就掏钱。(例如,为了让孩子坐下来写一篇用于大学网申的论文,我的一位朋友绞尽脑汁。于是,她提供了贿赂,甚至让孩子自己提出金额。在付出五十美元和两个半小时后,她的孩子写出了一篇“漂亮的文章”。之所以说这是一个很好的例子,因为这种任务仅此一次。)
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