另外,大多数人在想起分手和其他一些痛苦的事情时都会去仔细回忆那些经历并且找朋友倾诉。而米歇尔教授认为在想起这些令人心碎的事情时还是不要太详细才好。
“Common wisdom suggests that if we thoroughly revisit our negative experiences to try to understand why they happened, we’ll eventually be able to move on,” he said.
“通常的观念都认为人应当充分回想自身的负面经历,并从中找出发生的原因,最终才能继续向前迈进。”米歇尔教授说。
“However, new research is showing that some people only get worse by continuing to brood and ruminate.
“不过,最新的研究显示,有些人在反复回想之后,反而变得更糟了。”
“Each time they recount the experience to themselves, their friends or their therapist, they only become more depressed. Self-distancing, in contrast, allows them to get a more objective view, without reactivating their pain, and helps them get past the experience.”
“在他们每次对自己、自己的朋友或者医生回忆起这些经历时,都只会让自己变得更抑郁而已。与之相比,‘自我疏远’却可以使他们态度变得更客观,既不会揭心里的伤疤,还能帮他们摆脱这些经历。”
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