One of the things that makes our friendships so powerful and important is the fact that they're voluntary. So unlike our relationships with our partners or our family members, where there is the expectation that to some extent we have to stay involved in each other's lives, we don't see that same expectation when it comes to our friendships. And so what that means is that friends do have to choose on an ongoing daily basis to remain involved in each other's lives and to stay connected in that way. And that's why we can feel so close to friends. But it’s also why when they come to an end ... [it] can be so devastating and really, really hurtful.
友情之所以强大和重要,是因为这一切都是建立在自愿的基础之上。所以与恋情以及亲情不同(这两种感情都或多或少的希望我们能参与到彼此的生活中),友情并不会有同样的期待。这意味着朋友的确需要每天都进行选择,参与彼此的生活以保持联系,所以,我们才觉得朋友知我心。但这也是友情结束时,我们备受打击和感到痛苦的原因。
My first piece of advice for any situation where we're feeling like our friends aren't respecting our needs is to question: Have you said something? So often when we communicate about difficult situations, we're very quick to just throw it out there and expect that the people closest to us understand the reasoning behind why it's hurtful. But giving them a little bit of a glimpse into why this is painful can help people to perspective-take. So I would encourage people to kind of ask their friends, "What's going on?" Share why it's important and also potentially share a few solutions yourselves
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