听上去有些违反直觉,对吧?难道我们不应该分享我们的想法,以便于别人能更好地给我们提供帮助和激励吗?
According to NYU psychologist Peter Gollwitzer, that's not the case.
根据纽约大学的心理学家Peter Gollwitzer的观点,事实并非如此。
Gollwitzer thinks the issue lies in our sense of identity. Each of us wants to be certain things, and we naturally declare those intentions, even if we have not yet become those things. (Check out Twitter profiles bios if you don't believe me--tons of people are motivated, innovative, creative, passionate, and unique gurus, ninjas, and connoisseurs.)
Gollwitzer认为问题的关键在于我们的认同感。我们每个人都对自己有某种期望,我们自然地会向别人说出我们的想法,即使我们还没有做到。(你要是不相信我就去看看Twitter上的那些个人信息吧——一大堆的人号称自己目标明确、有创新思想、创造力强、热情十足或者是某方面的大师、忍者或者鉴赏家。)
Describing how I plan to run a marathon, and how I bought running shoes and joined a gym and created a training plan, certainly makes me feel good... but it also makes me feel like I'm already part of the way there even though I haven't trained at all.
描述我如何为跑马拉松做准备,如何买跑鞋、去健身房、制定训练计划,这当然会使我感觉良好……但那也会令我觉得我好像已经快成功了,虽然事实上我根本没开始训练。
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