学会认输赢得美满婚姻_小升初阅读

学会认输赢得美满婚姻

[16]Try this: Let a little space occur between you. Let the storm recede a little. Then tell your partner you understand that when a person is angry, it means shes been hurt, and that you want to do something about it because you love her.

[16]不妨这样试一下：让你们之间的紧张松弛一下，让你们之间的风暴平息一点。告诉你的妻子你理解她的激愤，你知道她内心有伤痛，你愿意为此做点什么，因为你爱她。

[17]Perhaps shell tell you why shes hurtangrily. Try not to be put off, but to hear the anger as sounds of hurt. When you discover the pain, you can address its cause, and the anger will begin to fade.

[17]也许她会愤怒地告诉你她为什么受伤，不要拖延，只管倾听她激愤的表达。当你发现她的痛处是什么时，你可以说出它的原因，这样激愤就可以平抚。

[18]Youre allowed to get angry too. But dumping anger on your partner is a poor way to soothe your hurt. When you talk of your hurt without anger, an unangry response usually comes.

[18]你自己也可以表示愤怒，但是对你的配偶宣泄你的激愤不是一个抚平内心伤痛的好办法。你如心平气和地说出你的隐伤，你会得到心平气和的理解。

[19] So remember: If you want to overcome anger in your relationship, search for the hurt. If you want to feel loved and respected, give up control. And if you want to win arguments at home, learn to lose them.