I wish there were an equation that could spit out an exact answer for you. Something like: Total months of sorrow = L (length of relationship) divided by π (or 0.5π if you lived together or were married), minus one hour for each healthy hour spent on self-care (the variables you mention, like time spent with friends, hobbies, etc.). But that’s bad math: Broken hearts aren’t medical injuries that take a typical number of months to heal. There’s no correct or healthy amount of time. Every person is an unsolvable variable.
我真希望能有一个方程,解了这个方程你就能得到准确时间。比如说:总的悲伤月份=L(恋情的长度)除以π(或0.5π,如果你们曾生活在一起或曾结过婚),减去每一次的自我健康时间(即你提到的变量,比如与朋友相处的时间,花在兴趣爱好上的时间,等等。)。但这是一道糟糕的数学题:心碎并不是一种医疗损伤,不知道具体需要多久才能治愈。也没有正确的或健康的时间总量。每个人的时间长短都是不一样的。
So please, don’t worry about whether or not you’re “doing everything right.” This isn’t a math test that can be checked. Don’t beat yourself up either. Sometimes, you can stress yourself out even more by worrying that you’re not processing things in the “right way,” whatever that may be. Think about all of your friends, and all of the different ways they’ve muddled through bad situations. I bet there’s not one formula.
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