考特尼比诺尔大一岁,一开始的时候,诺尔就被考特尼的网上形象给迷住了。他说她很好看,而且她还觉得他有趣迷人。诺尔说他“试图”约考特尼本人见面——他们之间只隔着几小时车程——被考特尔拒绝后,他十分失望。但一年后,也就是2006年,她突然给诺尔发了封邮件。那时候她刚刚分手,问诺尔想不想要和她在一起。“我跑过去了,”他回复道。“因为她住的很远,所以了解她就像是一场冒险。”
It was the summer of 2006, and Noll was 22 years old. He was a somewhat rudderless college grad; he wanted to do big things, but wasn't sure what that looked like. Instead, he poured his energies into nurturing a relationship with Courtney. She was charming and funny, but also vulnerable. He thought he could help her, perhaps be her knight in shining armor. The long-distance relationship progressed quickly. Even from the beginning, Noll saw signs of volatility, but he always found a way to write them off, even when they involved Courtney's episodes of drinking too much and passing out. "I would always put it back on myself and say, 'You're a guy who's not good with emotions and feelings. You're dumb, you're a dunce, and she just knows more [about feelings]’," he admits.
那时候是2006年夏天,诺尔当年22岁。他是个不知前途在何方的大学毕业生;他想成就一番大业,但又不知道自己想做什么。反而,他倾注全力和考特尼在一起。她风趣有魅力,但也很脆弱。他以为披着闪亮的铠甲,做她的骑士就能帮到她。这段异地恋进展的很快。即使刚开始诺尔就发现了俩人感情关系不确定的因素,但他也总能想办法去除这些因素。“我总是把问题归咎到自己身上,自言自语‘你是个不擅长处理情感的人。你是傻瓜、是笨蛋,她对情感的了解比你多了去了’,”他承认道。
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