"The thing that's frustrating about a cell phone conversation is that it's very hard to predict, which was one of the things that we found makes something annoying, usually," adds Lichtman. It's unpleasant, because you can't concentrate on other things while your brain is trying to predict the missing parts of the overheard conversation, studies show. And the fact that you know it must end, but don't know exactly when, ratchets up the annoying factor.
“电话对话令人沮丧的是通常很难去猜测我们知道的事情中哪些使我们生气。”Lichtman还称。研究表明,这很不愉快,因为当你大脑试着猜测串音谈话中错过的部分时,你不能集中精力。而且事实上你知道这个对话必须结束,但你不知道确切什么时候结束,这就增加了生气的因素。
In fact, not knowing the reason for something—why your computer is running slowly, why your 8 a.m. flight still hasn't boarded at 8:25, why traffic is at a standstill even though it's not rush hour—can make it seem even more annoying that it would be otherwise.
事实上,不知道一些事情的原因——为什么电脑反应那么慢,为什么早上8点的飞机到8:25还没起飞,为什么即使不是上下班高峰期交通还是停滞了——这些可以使在其他方面也会更生气。
So, what can you to keep your irritation in check? In the book, Lichtman and her co-author, NPR Science Correspondent Joe Palca, suggest "cognitive restructuring," where you remind yourself that you shouldn't be annoyed by whatever is pushing your buttons—a baby cries because it has no other way to communicate, for example; that loud coworker is just being her usual, overly perky self. Another trick: Focus on something else. "But that doesn't work very well," admits Palca on NPR's "Morning Edition. "So basically the bottom-line is you're stuck: it's annoying, and that's part of life."
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