很遗憾地告诉你,事实很可能是这样的:“你的”有些雄心壮志并非出自你本人的真实意愿。它们或是来自你的父母、亲朋好友,或是源于社会大环境对你的影响。
Here's how other people's goals can become yours – and why you want to take control again.
以下就将告诉你别人的“雄心壮志”何以摇身一变成了你自己的,而你又为何心甘情愿地“被雄心壮志”。
1: Your Parents' (or Family's) Goals
目标来源之一:你的父母或家庭
Naturally enough, parents often have big hopes and dreams for their kids. They may have struggled through hardship and made sacrifices in order to support their children – and they might have ideas about what constitutes a "good" career or a valuable life.
父母通常总是望子成龙、望女成凤的,这也不难理解。为了支持自己的孩子上进,父母往往不辞辛苦,甚至不惜作出牺牲,只求孩子有出息。在父母的头脑中,也许早已为孩子勾勒出了一幅事业成功、生活美满的理想蓝图。
Parents (or other relatives) may impose goals by:
父母(或其他亲戚)可能通过以下这些方式把“人生目标”强加给孩子:
Insisting that a particular activity isn't worth pursuing because "there's no money in it" – perhaps art, writing or music
坚持认为诸如艺术、写作、音乐之类的职业是不值得作为人生目标去追求的,因为这类职业往往毫无“钱”途可言。
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