她的手机上存着每个孩子的语音留言。她说，“我想尽可能长地把他们的声音带在身边，万一他们死了呢。”她日夜随身带着手机。当它响起时，她总会想到最坏的情况。

A few weeks ago, her 14-year-old daughter went to boarding school. Ms. Alvarez says the anxiety she feels now is like 'a hand on the back of my body, gripping my spine.' She often worries that her daughter will simply grow distant. 'I am afraid that because she is removed from me physically, she will remove herself emotionally,' Ms. Alvarez says.

几周前，她14岁的女儿去上寄宿学校。阿尔瓦雷斯说，她现在感到的焦虑就像“一只从我背后紧紧扼住我的脊柱的手”。她经常担心女儿变得与她疏远。她说，“我担心这个，是因为她离开了我身边，我怕她在感情上也会离我而去。”

When she gets stuck in a worry loop, Ms. Alvarez makes herself stop and notice her surroundings the couch, the carpet, the breakfast dishes in the sink and tells herself that all is well. 'I remind myself that my daughter and I have a loving connection, she is in a safe environment and I can control my thoughts and choose to imagine her happy,' she says. 'This breaks the spell.'

在家里，阿尔瓦雷斯靠画画来减轻自己的焦虑。当阿尔瓦雷斯陷入焦虑循环时，她会让自己停下来，注意自己的周围──沙发、地毯、水池里的早餐碟──并告诉自己一切都好。她说，“我提醒自己，我和我的女儿感情很深，她在一个安全的环境里，我能控制自己的思绪并让自己想象她很快乐。这打破了魔咒。”

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