教育好孩子,把握好分寸很重要_BEC初级作文

教育好孩子,把握好分寸很重要

Self-esteem serves as a gauge岸a kind of inner psychological meter岸of how much children feel valued and accepted by others, including family, friends and peers, based on research by Mark Leary, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University, and others. This sensitivity to others' views evolved because of humans' need for social acceptance, which in ancient times could be critical to survival, Dr. Leary says. As early as age 8, children's self-esteem tends to rise and fall in response to feedback about whether peers see them as likable or attractive, says a 2010 study in Child Development.

根据杜克大学(Duke University)心理学与神经系统学教授马克??利里(Mark Leary)等人进行的一项研究，自我认知是一个度量标准、一种内在的心理学角度的衡量尺度，用于衡量孩子自我感觉到的自己在其他人心目中的重要程度、以及其他人对自己的接受程度，这里的“其他人”包括家人、朋友和同伴等等。利里博士表示，这种对他人观点的敏感度是因为人类需要社会的接纳而进化而来，，社会的接纳在远古社会有可能攸关生死。于2010年发表在学术期刊《儿童发展》(Child Development)上的一则研究报告称，早在八岁这个年龄，孩子的自我认知就会随着同伴是否认为他们可爱或是有魅力这样的反馈而增加或降低。

'Children absolutely need to feel valued, accepted and loved, and this will lead to high self-esteem,' Dr. Leary says. But it can also be good for kids to feel bad about themselves temporarily, if they behave in selfish, mean or hurtful ways that might damage their ability to sustain relationships or hold a job in the future, he says. The best path is a middle road, helping children develop a positive but realistic view of themselves in relation to others.