利里博士表示:“孩子们绝对需要那种被尊重、被接纳和被爱的感受,而这些将带来较高的自我认可度。”不过,他说,如果孩子的行为表现出自私、自大或是会伤害到他人──这样的行为有可能影响到他们未来与他人相处或是保住自己工作的能力──那么短暂的自我感觉糟糕对于孩子来说有好处。最好的一条路是中间路线,帮助孩子培养出一个积极、但现实的、与他人相关的自我认知观点。
Ms. Greene's husband Jason, an actor and at-home dad, tries to teach their children what his grandfather taught him: 'Nobody is better than you, but you're not better than anybody else.' When his 8-year-old son Wyatt started goofing around at practice for his soccer team, which Mr. Greene coaches, he knew Wyatt was 'having a moment of feeling superior,' Mr. Greene says. He benched Wyatt immediately.
格林的丈夫贾森(Jason)是一位演员、同时也是一位全职父亲,他试图让自己的孩子明白他的祖父当年教给他的东西:“没有人比你强,不过你也不比其他任何人强。”贾森在他八岁的儿子怀亚特(Wyatt)的足球队里当教练,当怀亚特在足球队训练中开始不认真对待时,贾森说,他知道怀亚特“这一刻是有点飘飘然的优越感了”。他立刻将怀亚特换下场去坐冷板凳。
Later, he explained: 'I know it's hard to go by the rules all the time, to stand in line and pay attention. But you're not better than the rules, and you're not more important than anyone else on the team.' His son nodded, and 'we had a hug,' Mr. Greene says. Wyatt hasn't misbehaved at practice since.
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