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教育好孩子,把握好分寸很重要

Exaggerated praise can do harm, according to a study of 313 children ages 8 to 13 published this month in the Journal of Experimental Psychology. Parents who noticed that their children felt bad about themselves tended to pump up the praise when working with them, saying things like, 'You're so smart,' or, 'You're such a good artist,' researchers found.

今年2月份发表于《实验心理学杂志》(Journal of Experimental Psychology)上的一份研究报告称，一项由荷兰乌特勒支大学(Utrecht University)的研究人员所主导、针对313名年龄在八岁到13岁的儿童所进行的研究表明，过分夸大的褒扬有可能造成伤害。研究人员发现，当父母们在与自己的孩子合作完成一项任务时，若发现孩子的自我感觉不佳，往往会说诸如“你真聪明”或是“你真是个了不起的艺术家”这样赞扬的话来给孩子打气。

But those children felt ashamed when they were defeated later in a simulated computer game; other children who received more realistic praise that focused on their effort or behavior didn't feel any shame, according to the study led by researchers at Utrecht University in the Netherlands. Well-meaning adults 'may foster in children with low self-esteem the very emotional vulnerability they are trying to prevent,' the study says. A better path is to praise children for the effort they invest, an element they can control, the study says.

但是，这项研究发现，当这些孩子之后在模拟的电脑游戏中被打败时，他们会感到羞耻；而其他那些得到的评价更为现实、且所得评价只集中于他们的努力或是表现的孩子，则不会感到任何羞耻。研究报告中写道，那些善意的成年人“或许恰恰在孩子心中种下了他们试图避免的那种脆弱情感──较低的自我认可”。研究报告称，较好的方式是对孩子所付出的努力──这一他们能够自己控制的因素──予以表扬。

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