Rather than tackle our own irrational thinking and massage it into more realistic thinking, we attempt to control the situation, usually by trying to control other people. Want to know if you're a control freak? Here are eight signs for your self-diagnosing pleasure.
为了不让糟糕的假设变成现实,我们得试着去控制局面。如何控制呢?通常的做法是:控制别人。想知道自己是不是不知不觉中成了控制狂?看看以下8大特点中,自己占了几项吧。
1. You believe that if someone would change one or two things about themselves, you'd be happier. So you try to "help them" change this behavior by pointing it out, usually over and over.
你一直觉得如果别人能改掉一两个缺点的话,你就会活得更开心。于是,你一遍又一遍地指出他们的缺点,以“帮助”他们改正。
2. You micromanage others to make them fit your (often unrealistic) expectations. You don't believe in imperfection and you don't think anyone else should either.
你事无巨细地改变他人,以达到自己心目中的最高(不现实的)期望。你从来不相信“不完美”的存在,同样地,你要求周遭的人也得摒弃那些不完美。
3. You judge others' behavior as right or wrong and passive-aggressively withhold attention until they fall in line with your expectations. Sitting in silent judgment is a master form of control.
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