If you think this evasion sounds a lot like lying, you are right. But there are other names for the seemingly harmless lies spouses and romantic partners sometimes tell each other.

如果你认为这种逃避听起来很像说谎，那么你对了。但有一些其他的词可以用来形容夫妻和情侣之间说的这种看似无害的说谎。

Hiding worries or concerns to shield your partner from something unpleasant, or even just to keep the peace? Researchers call this 'protective buffering.' Hiding something to protect yourself, such as how much you spent on your new toy? Researchers call that avoidance. Routine buffering can turn into avoidance or something worse.

掩饰自己的烦恼或担忧，不让伴侣知道会让他们不快的事，或者只是为了保持和平？研究人员称这为“保护性缓冲”。研究人员称隐瞒某件事以保护自己──例如你花多少钱买的新玩具──为逃避。经常性的缓冲可以转变为逃避，甚至更糟的情况。

Couples often wrongly assume full disclosure is always best, says Sean Horan, a professor of relational communication at DePaul University in Chicago. But even avoidance, when not excessive, can be a 'productive strategy, ' he says. Consider how you'd feel if your partner told you any or all of these:

芝加哥德保罗大学(DePaul University)的人际交流学教授肖恩•霍兰(Sean Horan)说，夫妻经常错误地认为毫无保留总是最好的。但他说，当把握好分寸时，即使逃避也可能是一个“有效的策略”。想想看，如果你的伴侣告诉你下面这些话，你会作何感想：

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