一旦婚姻亮红灯,许多人就开始问自己“我是不是找错了人?”这个问题绝对错误。婚姻成功与否不在纠结于你是否找对了人,而在于珍惜身边人。爱情不是什么神秘的事,和宇宙万物一样必须遵循自然规律。飞机飞行要遵循地心引力,夫妻关系也有规律可循,你的行为决定了你的婚姻质量。不要相信“爱是运气”这跟运气无关,跟你自己的选择如何对待息息相关。
Know that absence does not make the heart grow fonder.
玩消失不会让你们的心走的更近
That might have been true in junior high school when you went away for the summer. But in marriage, particularly in a broken marriage, absence separates people. It creates distance, and that's the opposite of what we're trying to achieve, which is closeness.
距离产生美?也许高中时代的情侣分开一个暑假后真能有个感情升华。然而结婚后的你们,特别是婚姻又亮起红灯的时候,千万不要以为在对方面前消失一下可以挽救你们的婚姻,这只会让你们越来越生疏,远走远远。
Don't talk about your problems.
不要咬着你们的问题不放
Talking about the problems in a marriage doesn't resolve them; it makes them worse. It leads to arguments and bad will. Besides, you'll never talk yourself out of a problem that you behaved yourself into. Marriages change because people change. Say little; do much. Speak in the vocabulary of your actions. New choices resolve marital problems; discussions don't.
【婚姻亮红灯时你犯傻了吗?情感专家非常规作战保卫爱情】相关文章:
★ 莫奈名画《干草堆》拍出1.1亿美元 创印象派画作价格新高
最新
2020-09-15
2020-09-15
2020-09-15
2020-09-15
2020-09-15
2020-09-15