Listening, speaking, not blaming, compromising; sounds easy, right? So why don't we just DO these things? The answer rests with number five.
倾听,表达,宽恕,妥协;听起来容易,对吧?那为什么不付诸行动呢?答案在第五条中揭晓。
You're not present
你不存在
Once again, I do not mean physically. This is the line that ties all of the prior items together. Presence is complete awareness, or consciousness—if you do not find at least some amount of presence, it is impossible to listen, speak, compromise, and avoid the blame game.
再次说明我并不是指物理上的不存在。此处将前面的几点都联系在一起了。存在是一种透彻的感知和意识---如果你找不到一丁点的存在,那就不可能去倾听,表达,妥协或避免指责游戏。
You may have noticed that the suggestions for dealing with each point thus far have been to look inward, see, and accept. THAT is presence: learning how to be with yourself, see the cogs turning, embrace what's there, and thereby put space around destructive thought and feeling.
也许你已经发现了每条处理问题的建议都是先审视内心,仔细洞察然后再接受。那就是存在:你看得见齿轮的转动,会拥抱周围的事物,能给糟糕的想法和情绪留点余地。
The idea is that you must first attend to yourself before you can effectively communicate with or help another person. When we learn to cultivate awareness, we are laying the groundwork to deal with all of the aforementioned issues. Not only that, but difficulties in a relationship can be a gold-mine for this type of work.
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