该研究得的一个结果出人意料:对于男女关系的健康状况而言,一个人如何寻求或接受支持的行为比这个人如何提出建议的行为更重要。爱荷华大学副教授、该系列研究的带头人之一埃里卡•劳伦斯(Erika Lawrence)说:“在需要支持的时候,人们总处在一个很脆弱的位置。”
Another finding: When too little advice was offered in a marriage, it was the men who suffered more. Researchers believe this is because husbands often look to their wives as their primary source of encouragement, while wives lean on friends and other loved ones, in addition to their husbands.
另一个发现是:当夫妻一方给出的建议太少时,男性会比女性更受困扰。研究人员认为,这是因为丈夫常常将自己的妻子视为他们主要的动力源泉,而在妻子这一方,除了自己的丈夫以外,她们还会依赖朋友和其他所爱的人。
Men and women tend to experience different emotions when they receive advice from a partner, says Anna Ranieri, a psychologist in Palo Alto, Calif., and co-author of 'How Can I Help? What you Can (and Can't) Do to Counsel a Friend, Colleague or Family Member with a Problem.' When wives offer guidance, husbands often feel reprimanded or nagged. Yet when the advice comes from the husbands─who are more likely to give tangible, fix-it type suggestions to a problem─it is common for wives to feel that they are being condescended to or seen as incapable.
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