善待朋友: 怎样经营你的友谊银行_BEC初级作文

善待朋友: 怎样经营你的友谊银行

为了展开这项研究，研究人员让232名受试者就14项描述按一至七分的等级为自己评分，包括“我常常帮助需要帮助的人”、“我认为人们应当竭尽全力帮助他人”以及“别人忽视我的需求时，我心里会不舒服”等等。这些受试者接着还要连续一个月每周完成三次调查，记录他们的自尊感、积极情绪、对关系的满足感以及对整个人类的爱的程度。

The results: 'Being a helpful person feels good and contributes to better relationships and greater satisfaction and self-worth, ' says Bonnie Le, a Ph.D candidate at the University of Toronto and lead researcher on the study.

多伦多大学博士、该项研究的领头人邦尼·勒(Bonnie Le)称，结果表明“做个有帮助的人会让人感觉良好，有助于增进关系，且带来更大的满足感和自我价值感。”

Even so, people with strong communal orientation aren't completely selfless. They do expect their friends will be there if they need them. The risk they run is they won't receive support, or they will even be exploited, by friends or loved ones with low communal orientation.

即便如此，公共取向度高的人并非就是完全无私的，他们也期望朋友能在他们需要之时出现。他们面临的风险是得不到支持，甚至被公共取向度低的朋友或亲人利用。

So what can you do if you tend to give a lot in a friendship and don't always get what you need in return? Start by rechanneling some of your giving. Volunteer for charity or help someone less fortunate. You'll enjoy the benefits of providing help and will be free of the expectation that you will receive something in return.