待到非吵不可时,孩子面前怎样吵架_BEC初级作文

待到非吵不可时,孩子面前怎样吵架

怎样防止火药味在幼小的眼睛和耳朵面前变得过于浓重？儿童心理学家科尔斯滕·卡伦(Kirsten Cullen)提议，父母亲应当事先讲好在愤怒情绪达到什么程度时停止争吵。她要求人们按10分制给自己的愤怒程度打分，确定在达到哪个分数的时候，他们觉得就要开始吼叫、咒骂，或者宽泛地说是要失去控制。（这个人可能是五，那个人可能是七。）争论期间，当妈妈或爸爸的愤怒程度达到应该停止争吵的那个数字时，两人就把这次争吵推到孩子睡着的时候或不在身边的时候。不管是哪一个人达到了这个极限，对方都可以指出。

'One of the great skills parents can offer their children is conflict resolution. That helps [kids] in their future relationships, ' says Dr. Cullen Sharma, co-director of the early childhood clinical service at the Child Study Center at NYU Langone Medical Center.

纽约大学朗格尼医学中心(NYU Langone Medical Center)儿童研究中心(Child Study Center)负责幼儿临床服务的联席主任卡伦·夏尔玛(Cullen Sharma)说：“冲突的化解是父母能给孩子的好技能之一。这有利于孩子将来的人际关系。”

Caroline Rheinfrank and Chopper Bernet have an unofficial five-minute time limit for disagreements in front of their three children, ages 15, 14 and 11. 'Now that they are older, they comprehend more, ' says Ms. Rheinfrank, a stay-at-home mother in Los Angeles. Or as Mr. Bernet, an actor, explains, 'Parents need timeouts, too.' The couple also tries to prevent potential blowups by cutting each other extra slack during times with high bicker potential, including while in the car and just before dinner.