我认识的几对夫妻都有各自的年度绩效评估。有一对将之称为“我们的国情咨文”。另一对则是更严肃地对待他们所说的“董事局会议”,由四部分正式议程组成:私人事务、专业事务、慈善事务和精神事务。一对子女已经成年的夫妇将评估看作一项涉及全家的事务,还配备了一名心理学家,以防大家在讨论过程中动了肝火。一位朋友在解释为什么在家里搞评估活动时说:“有时候我觉得我们在同事面前比在自己家人前面更加坦诚。”
For our own review, my husband and I talk over dinner about our 'accomplishments' over the past year as a couple, the 'areas for improvement,' the 'goals' we want to set for the year ahead and the 'next steps' we are going to take to get there. Comments run the gamut from petty complaints, like laundry on the floor, to important goals, like setting time alone as a couple. These reviews force us to focus and reflect on the big picture, to give priority to what's really important to us in our very busy lives.
在我们自己的评估中,丈夫和我会在吃晚饭期间谈到过去一年作为夫妻所取得的“成就”、“待改进之处”、希望为来年制定的“目标”,以及为实现目标将要采取哪些“新步骤”。我们无话不谈,既说到地板上的脏衣服之类的琐事,也说到留出夫妻独处时间之类的重要目标。这些评估迫使我们关注及反思大局,并把繁忙生活中真正重要的事情放在头等位置。
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