4. The two-question technique
4. “两个问题”的技巧
Ask them about something positive in their life. Only after they reply should you ask them how they're feeling about life in general.Sounds silly, but this method is based on research by Nobel Prize-winning psychologist Daniel Kahneman.A positive answer on the first question will lead to them feeling more positive about their life in general when you ask the second question:
询问他人生活中积极的东西,在他们回答后再询问他们对于生活什么看法。这个方法是基于诺贝尔奖心理学家丹尼尔·卡内曼的研究。对于第一个问题的积极回答会引导人们在回答第二个问题的时候也感到积极:
The same pattern is found if a question about the students' relations with their parents or about their finances immediately precedes the question about general happiness. In both cases, satisfaction in the particular domain dominates happiness reports. Any emotionally significant question that alters a person's mood will have the same effect.
同样的模式也表现在询问学生和父母的关系或者经济情况如何。在这两个例子里,报告显示满意度在特定领域会主宰幸福,任何情感上的重大问题对于改变一个人的情绪都有着同样的作用。
5. Repeat the last three words
5. 重复最后三个词
Active listening has incredible power, and hostage negotiators use it to build rapport. What's the quick and dirty way to do active listening without training? Social skills expert and author Leil Lowndes recommends simple repetition: "…simply repeat — or parrot — the last two or three words your companion said, in a sympathetic, questioning tone. That throws the conversational ball right back in your partner's court."
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