你觉得是时候说出心底的秘密了吗_BEC初级作文

你觉得是时候说出心底的秘密了吗

在很多电影和电视剧中，秘密是引人入胜的情节推动器（《唐顿庄园》(Downton Abbey)的粉丝们，你们懂的）。但瞒着所爱的人会导致关系出现情感裂缝，会改变我们交流的方式。研究表明，有秘密瞒着配偶时，关系的满意度就会下降。对某个秘密考虑得越多，就越想公开这个秘密。

'When we have a secret and mull it over, we develop stress and it makes our body sick,' says Tamara Afifi, professor of communication studies at the University of Iowa, who studies secrets. 'To get our body back to a sense of health, we need to reveal or cure our self of the secret.' Researchers call this the Fever Model, she says.

爱荷华大学(University of Iowa)研究秘密的传播学教授塔玛拉・阿菲菲(Tamara Afifi)说：“当我们有秘密并且反复想的时候，就会形成压力，身体就会不舒服。要让身体回到健康的状态，我们就需要把秘密公开或者不要让自己再纠结于这个秘密。”她说，研究人员称之为“发烧模式”(Fever Model)。

Mike Speakman, a substance-abuse counselor in Phoenix, kept a secret about revenge until he couldn't stand it anymore. Several years after his divorce, he sneaked into his ex-wife's house, took a valuable Native American kachina doll he'd given her in happier times -- and threw it into a nearby canal. 'I suppose it made me feel better for a while,' he says.