莫泽也提到另一种客观看待问题的方法:提及自己的感受时,用你的名字而不是“我”去指代,举个例子,说“我会失败”听起来很残酷,这会让你和自己所担心的事情听起来很近。然而,“如果你站在另外一个人的角度去谈论自己,你就可以做到更加客观,” 莫泽讲道。
They get to the root of their worry
设想最坏的情形,找出忧虑的根源
The problem with worrying is that it can spin out of control until the thing you're worried about is 10 steps removed from your immediate issue. That's why it's so important to figure out what the real problem is in order to stop the worry cycle.
忧虑的问题就在于它会一发不可收拾,直到你担心的事情排到你眼下急需解决的问题10步以外。这就是为什么找出真正的症结所在并停止忧虑循环如此重要。
"When I work with worriers, I try to work on them with problem identification, and to help them be comfortable doing that," Purdon says. "Yes, there are some problems that could lead to something else, but [let's] not worry about that right now because it's not happening right now."
“和忧虑者一起工作的时候,我尝试引导他们找出问题,并且让他们习惯于这么做,” 博登讲道。“是的,有些问题的确可以引发其他问题,但是先别去管它们,因为现在还没发生。”
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