So you're hopping on roller coasters and going white water rafting — but what do you need to do when you're there?
Pretend you're on your first date.
Studies show pretending time with a romantic partner was a first date makes it more enjoyable for you and for your partner:
Across a series of studies, participants underestimated how good they would feel in situations that required them to put their best face forward… participants who were instructed to engage in self-presentation felt happier after interacting with their romantic partner than participants who were not given this instruction…
Why? On first dates we make an effort to impress. And we're full of hope.
Love means being a little delusional (Some researchers even think love might qualify as a mental illness.)
Thinking your partner is better than they really are makes for longer, better relationships.
Sandra Murray and her colleagues have been studying romantic relationships now for several decades, and have found that idealising one's partner is a sure recipe for marital success; moreover, the higher one's ideals are and the more one idealises one's partner, the more satisfied one is with the relationship – and the longer it is likely to last.
Letting yourself be a little crazy — crazy for your partner — pays off.
《启蒙的爱》的作者丹尼尔·琼斯(Daniel Jones)说:“年轻的时候,我们总是在问‘我怎样才能找到真爱’?到了中年,我们又会问‘我怎样才能找回爱’?”
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