你选中了一条完美的裙子去参加朋友的单身派对，这时导购小姐便开始抓住你不放，给你推销各式各样的腰带和耳环来搭配。

"I love that, but I'm not going to get it today." The sales assistant is just doing her job — she doesn't take a no personally and you shouldn't either. You're wasting her time by acting like you'redeliberating or putting something on hold just for show. Say no, be lovely about it ... and leave.

“我很喜欢它们，但是今天不打算买。”导购员只是在做她的本职工作——她不会把你的拒绝当做针对她个人的，并且你也不应该这么觉得。你假装考虑或者故作迟疑都是在浪费她的时间。你只需友好地拒绝，然后离开。

2. The Parent-Trap No

对“父母束缚”说不

Mom and Dad invite you on a cruise. You get only two weeks off and think this would be an awful way to spend one of them.

父母邀你一同游轮度假。你只有两周的休息时间，而且觉得要花其中一周和他们在一起实在是个糟糕的主意。

"I love you and that's so generous, but I can't. How about a weekend visit?" Time with you may be more important to them than the plan. Be quick and sweet, and don't make up a story. They knew when you were lying at age 8; they'll know now. P.S. Don't get guilted! You're an adult!

“我爱你们，请我去度假实在是太好了，但我没办法去。我周末去看你们怎么样？”对于他们来说，和你在一起的时光，或许比度假计划重要得多。果断贴心地回答，而不要撒谎。你8岁时的谎言就瞒不过他们的眼睛，现在依然如此。另外，别为此心怀内疚！你已经是个大人了！

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