这两个是在人际关系中使用的典型武器。“你总是做XYZ”或者“你从来不做ABC。”对么?每次都是?好好想一想—这些行为是不是能惹恼你?
"Never" can also be unduly limiting. Even if you think something will never ever happen, voicing your negativity can discourage others from contributing ideas that could solve a problem.
“从不”也可以是过分限制。哪怕你认为某件事不可能发生,说出你的消极看法会让别人打消贡献出能够解决问题的想法。
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Everyone has things they could be doing differently but "shoulding on yourself" isn't going to propel you to action. Not only will a self-inflicted guilt trip lead to balking, dwelling on your shortcomings can quickly spiral out of control and result in negative and counter-productive self-talk.
每个人做的事都可能会有另一种方法来做。但是“你应该”这句话无法促使你行动。不仅仅自我施加的罪恶感会成为阻碍,细想自己的缺点也很快会让你失控,产生消极和事与愿违的自言自语。
"'I should be [doing something more] leads to 'Man, I lack discipline' which leads to 'What's wrong with me?' which leads to 'Maybe I don't have what it takes ... why do I even bother ... I should just quit now ...'" says psychologist and master violinist Dr. Noa Kageyama. "And pretty soon we're sitting on the couch watching reruns of The Office and eating a six-pack of Skinny Cow ice cream sandwiches."
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