“我本应该(做更多的事)"的想法会产生"伙计,我缺乏自律",然后就是“我怎么了?”,之后是“也许我没有所需的品质……为什么我要做呢……我应该现在就放弃……”心理学家兼小提琴大师景山诺亚说。“很快我们就会坐在沙发上,看着电影《办公室》重播,吃掉六包低脂冰淇淋三明治。
Instead of "should" Kageyama advises using a phrase that's more specific and solution-focused. For example, you could tell yourself that next time you'll spend five minutes on the behavior you've been avoiding before doing anything else. Or, "This afternoon I will spend 20 minutes [searching online] for ideas that might make [this activity] more interesting and challenging in a motivating way," he suggests.
比起用“应该”一词,景山建议用更明确、更聚焦解决方案的词组来替代。比如,你下次可以告诉自己,在做任何事之前,你会花5分钟在需要避免的行为上。或者,“今天下午,我会花20分钟(上网搜索)能让(活动)更有趣更具有挑战性的想法。”他建议说。
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