她制定了一份由39个问题组成的量表,以期衡量智慧的三重构面。在这张量表中,可以读到诸如此类的陈述:“如果我觉得某个问题根本没办法解决,那么它对我就没什么吸引力”,“我跟形形色色的人都相处得很好”,或者“我很容易被跟我争论的人激怒”等等。但她并没有告诉受访者这是一项衡量智慧水平的测试。然后,她又假设了一些挑战和危机,让受访者回答了相关问题。综合上述结果,阿尔德特教授发现,在测试中显示出大智慧的人也拥有更高明的处事技巧。譬如一般来说,他们在应对困难时心态往往更为主动积极。
An impediment to wisdom is thinking, "I can't stand who I am now because I'm not who I used to be," said Isabella S. Bick, a psychotherapist who, at 81, still practices part time out of her home in Sharon, Conn. She has aging clients who are upset by a perceived worsening of their looks, their sexual performance, their physical abilities, their memory. For them, as for herself, an acceptance of aging is necessary for growth, but "it's not a resigned acceptance; it's an embracing acceptance," she said.
心理治疗师伊莎贝拉·S·比克(Isabella S. Bick)说,总是想着“我真受不了我现在的样子,因为我跟以前简直判若两人”,这是通往智慧人生的一大阻碍。虽然已经81岁高龄,她仍时不时离开她位于康涅狄格州沙伦市的家,从事非全职的治疗工作。在她的客户中,有一些老人因自己的外貌、性能力、体力或记忆力不如以往而大感沮丧。对于他们(以及她自己)而言,接受衰老是成长的必要条件,她说,但“这不是听天由命的不得已而为之;而是欣然地接受自然规律”。
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