据索托所言,一个人性格的细微改变都可能对其感情、事业、健康与幸福带来巨大影响。但改变需要时间。
“You start by changing the behavior and then, if you can maintain that new behavior over time, it gets encoded,” Soto says.
他说,“你应该从改变行为开始,如果你能在一段时间内保持新的行为方式,那么它就会被渗透到你的性格特点中。”
Where do you start? “First, we have to recognize which pieces of our personality affect us,” says Richard Levak, a well-known personality expert who often appears in US TV programs. “If I am always getting fired because I get into arguments with co-workers and always blame others, then I have to realize that I have to change something,” he says.
你又要从哪里开始(改变)呢?经常现身美国电视节目的知名性格专家理查德•里瓦克的建议是:“首先,我们需要认识到自身性格中的哪一部分对自己产生了影响。如果我常常会因为与同事的争论而遭到解雇,却责怪他人,那么我就会意识到自己必须在某些方面有所改变。”
Don’t set your expectations too high. Be patient. Warren Kennaugh, a behavioral strategist in Sydney, Australia, says it’s important to start small. Identify a first step and then practice it without worrying about the initial results. “It’s like learning to kick a football, you focus on the steps, not whether it goes in the goal,” The Wall Street Journal quoted him as saying.
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