12年婚姻我们如何顺利度过七年之痒_BEC初级作文

12年婚姻我们如何顺利度过七年之痒

我们都还年轻，在我们二十出头的青葱岁月就坠入爱河，准备步入婚姻的殿堂。但这并不一定就代表着我们做好了准备。在我们婚后12年的婚姻生活中，我们弄明白了12件事情：

1. 50/50 Expectations Lead to Disappointment.1. 50/50的期望结果反而是失望。

For a season, we viewed marriage like it was a game. A competition. If I do this, you should do that. Meet me in the middle here, do a little more there. If you do 20 things, I'll do 20. That sort of game. But the true work is done when one of you can't get to the middle. When it's up to the other to go the extra mile. Maybe that ratio is 90/10 for a season if a spouse is sick, stressed, even depressed. Don't view marriage as a scorecard, someone always loses that way.

曾有一度我们都认为婚姻就像是一场游戏、一场竞争。如果我这样做，你就应该这样做。这里做完了，就在那多做一点。如果你做了20件事，我也要做20件事。就像这样的游戏。但在实际生活中你无法做完那一半。而需要对方多做一些。如果配偶生病、压力大、抑郁的时候，这个比例就是90/10。不要把婚姻当作记分卡，总有输的一方。

2. Keep Adventure Alive.

2. 保持冒险精神。

In my early days of dating Brooke, I pulled out all the stops. We went on long hikes, I made her candlelit dinners, I worked hard at the chase. When the years and responsibilities piled up, I let that fire die too many times. Fighting to keep adventure alive doesn't have to look like a trip to Paris; it could be a last-minute trip to a local hotel, a surprise baby sitter for the evening or even a simple handwritten note. Inject your marriage with adventure.